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Soon, I'll write specifically about senior year. It's deserving of its own post.
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- Don’t put pressure on yourself to be elementary school super mom. You don’t need to be the homeroom parent. You don’t need to make food for class parties. You don’t need to lead craft activities. As my daughter would say, “You do you.” In my case, that meant donating bottled water. Or cash.
- Don’t put pressure on yourself to be a super mom at home. You don’t need to make meals. You don’t need to bake cookies. You don’t need to decorate the windows and door for holidays. You don’t need to visit Pintrest or read Better Homes & Gardens. In fact, delete the “need to” and simply DON’T do either of those things. Trust me, you’ll be happier.
- Don’t put pressure on yourself to be an at-home mom. Been there. Hated it. Cried a lot. I was a much better mom the minute I took a job and left the house.
- Don’t help your kids with their homework. Trust me, after 1st grade you won’t know how to do it anyway, and by telling your kids you can’t do it in those early years, you’ll get out of helping in the future.
- Don’t drink too much in front of the kids, or else they’ll draw pictures and write short stories about how much mommy likes wine.
- If you’re not comfortable with being public school enemy No. 1, don’t write a note to the principal questioning the appropriateness of
wastingspending a month preparing for an extravaganza that involves less than 10% of the class. This will only lead to your child’s teacher never speaking to you again, and may actually sound the death knell for said event.
- Don’t let your child quit a sport or a musical instrument without first having them sign a legal document absolving you of any wrongdoing when they change their mind five years later and it’s now too late to make the varsity team or first chair in the orchestra.
- Don’t drink alcohol or eat poorly in front of the kids. Their teachers are brainwashing them to believe one
bottleglass of wine, and a baghandful of chips mean you’re a bad parent.
- Don’t get involved in your child’s every issue. And if your child is having issues with a friend (and they will, guaranteed), don’t involve the friend’s parents. They’ll think you need to chill the f out.
- Don’t panic when you hear your child has a significant other. This only means they’re holding hands while walking around the school track at lunchtime. They aren’t actually speaking to one another. That doesn’t happen until marriage, and for some, not even then.
- Don’t waste money on an actual bouquet for your son’s middle school dance date(s). Pick up a Trader Joe’s flower bunch for $5, cut the stems short and tie a ribbon around them. Voila.
- Don’t assume your child needs therapy. They might, but they might also just be a middle school age kid. That explains nearly everything.
- Give up trying to find shorts that actually cover your daughter's tush. They don't exist.
- Sing loudly when you have your child’s friends in the car. Part of your job as a parent is to embarrass them and you want to stay consistent in this regard. Breaking into song at the hair salon is also good, as is chaperoning a school dance. And if you really want to leave a mark, shout, "I love you!" out the car window when dropping them off at school. They appreciate that.
Next up: What I learned about Senior Year. Stay tuned!